“I have recently read your post on how stay at home moms are lazy. I have a mom myself and i find she is very lazy aswell [sic]. My dad on the other hand is very active and as myself being a teen i like to be active and do stuff with him all of the time ! Its not fun when my mom is always home and doing NOTHING. I clean the kitchen every single day, garden, vaccum [sic] , walks the dog, cooks meals, dishes, etc. and my dad is doing all of those chores aswell [sic]! She sits on the couch the whole day switching from watching tv to going on the computer or sleeping when its beautiful outside. When I am home just with her I can not do much at all. Since she is to lazy to do anything. She is over weight, but she doesn’t even know it.. I dont know what to do.. and your help and advice is greatly apreciated !” [sic]

I don’t know if this email I received is a joke or not, but I thought I’d address it given it’s nature, and the fact that there seems to be an increasing amount of people landing on this site looking for support to back up their own stereotypes and biases.

First of all, I didn’t say that stay at home moms are lazy, I said that when certain statements are made they perpetuate stereotypes.

“But to say “I want to stay at home with my kids because I don’t want to work” is a big slap in the face.

The first slap is obvious- it makes it seem as if stay at home moms don’t work at all. It breathes life into the stereotype that stay at home moms do nothing all day but shop, eat chocolate, and occasionally wipe down a few counters.”

Furthermore, I said that the individual person who makes these statements sounds lazy; not an entire group of women.

“Also, it makes the person who said it sound extremely lazy, and in turn, everyone else who is a stay at home mom has to take the brunt of it.”

Now that we’ve cleared that up I really don’t know how to respond to this. I do find it funny that weight was brought into the discussion, but I shouldn’t be surprised as overweight has become synonymous with lazy.

The only thing I could suggest is how about talking to her? I don’t mean yelling, rolling your eyes, and calling her a fat lazy pig while comparing her to someone else; I mean how about having a discussion in which you express your concerns and see how she responds.

People usually have reasons behind their actions (or lack of action), and having an open discussion without name calling, judgments, or self righteous comments often helps find those reasons.

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