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Feminists Hate Men
One day I came across a website about helping women start businesses. It held my interest as business is one of my favorite topics. I decided to interview the founder of the organization because I was really intrigued.
As I prepared for the interview, I noticed that on the website there was a statement that said “We are not feminists”.
That struck me as a very odd thing to put on any website, let alone a website that was about helping women so I asked why did she have that on there.
The answer was that feminism means that women don’t need men and that just wasn’t what she was about.
This is one example of why “Feminist Hate Men” is number 10 on my list of Top 10 Stereotypes About Feminists.
Let’s face it, there is a lot of hate going on in this world. Some people hate men, some people hate women, and some people hate everybody. On the other hand, some people love everybody. Taking that into account, it shouldn’t be a far stretch to understand that feminist should not be synonymous with man hater.
There are some things that some men do that some feminist women don’t like; but instead of always seeing that as a bad thing, why not look at the point they are trying to make?
Is it so wrong to be turned off by chavnistic men who look at women as their servants? Is it wrong to be outspoken when someone tries to have a misogynistic conversation with you?
I react negatively when put in those situations, but that doesn’t mean I hate all men, it just means that I don’t like men who exhibit those characteristics.
It’s no different than me not liking women who are shallow and self absorbed. I’m sure someone would love to hang out with you, it just won’t be me.
As for feminists not needing men; some women don’t have a need for a man to do certain things for them. Some women do. Neither side should feel superior.
Besides, when women say “I don’t need a man” I doubt that the majority are saying “I don’t need men in my life at all and I wish they would go away.” It’s more like, “I’m not going to perish if there isn’t a man in my life. I’ll be able to take care of myself, therefore getting a man is not my focus right now.” Yes, there are extremes on both sides, but extremes do not indicate the norm.
So please, here’s a shovel, let’s bury that feminist hate men line.
I can see it from both sides. I don’t think that most feminists actually hate men. On the other hand it seems to be pretty rare for a feminist site or group to stand up for men when other feminists are bashing them. I’ve personally never seen any feminist stand up to another that was male bashing. I have seen them cheered on for bashing men though. So while it may be a minority of feminists that actually bash men, it seems to be at least tolerated by many feminists and I think that is why so many people think feminists don’t like men.