long distance relationships and cheating

[tearingmeapart]

I have been in a long distance relationship for pretty much the majority of the time Ive dated my boyfriend. We met a year or so ago, hung out for a couple of months before he moved back to UK (he lived in NY, me in VA, so on weekends only) and have talked on the phone every day. He wants to get married, I gave him the impression I did too, but I tend to think every guy is 'The one" in the throws of the "honeymoon period" of the first three - six or so months and make impulsive decisions and say impulsive things and give strong impressions of my feelings. ANYWAY. So now Ive started hanging out with my next door neighbor and am finding we have soooooooooo much more in common and Im really starting to fall for him... problem is, my LDR boyfriend has no idea, and i am scheduled to visit him in England (he bought me a ticket for christmas) to meet his parents and he has everything planned out for us, down to which night we are having dinner with whichever family members and he has booked hotel in paris for us and etc the list goes on... and this new crush has all just come about so fast, right after I made the trip was planned. SSOOOOOOOOO. I know I need to make a decision as I have already made out with my neighbor and feel horribly guilty and with each passing day I feel closer and closer to J and more and more distance to LDR boyfriend. It is not right what I am doing and I don't know what to do about it because I feel driven toward my neighbor and I feel this incredible connection but I don't want to let down my boyfriend, crush him, and disappoint his family and/or tell my family I have failed to stay in once again, another relationship. But I don't know what I should do... risk everything and go with my heart or wait until I go to England to make any decisions and cut off everything with new guy (when that feels nearly impossible) or break it off with boyfriend (and completely crush him) due to being dishonest and cancel this ten day trip he has been looking forward to. I DONT KNOW. Anyone? Bueller?

[ToysMama]

Having never been in a long distance relationship myself, I can only say that they require a STRONG amount of commitment. But with any kind of relationship there will always be other fruit dangling from other trees. Just because it looks delicious it doesn't mean you have to bite into it...but you already did.

If you aren't committed then be honest. Don't lead him on. I'd say that if it was a long distance relationship or not.

[DJ]

It's clear that you don't want to be with your boyfriend anymore. You are just afraid to tell him that. As someone who has been cheated on before I'd prefer the honest approach as opposed to someone just leading me on so that they don't hurt my feelings. It took guts to cheat with your neighbor now take those same guts and tell the truth about it.

Good luck.

[alfie]

Long time relation had been exist and after it if anyone make cheat then it is very bed for  both,because if anyone done this type of work then love and dating doesn't have any value so avoid  cheating.